Sad Farewell to Blogger, Diana Neutze.

I only knew Diana through her blog,  which I’ve been following for some time now. The concept of her blog was simple, to blog and post her poetry about living, and dying, with MS, over the last 40 years. Her achievement was immense. There are two words that sum up her poetry for me, first honest, sometimes brutally, then beautiful.

Diana died 4.00am Thursday morning.

I hope her blog and poetry site are both kept going; in case not, however, I recommend a few contemplative hours reading them.

Condolences to Diana’s family and close friends.

Diana’s poem below is one of my favourites, because it shows despite the disease, she was living life on her terms:

The third bell

I have sprung a leak, am taking on water.

Perhaps in my sleep, I drifted across

a ragged rock or coral reef.

It's not yet dangerous: no sound

of swooshing in the hold.

But it's only a matter of time.

I have presented myself

with an arbitrary date: forty weeks,

a spiritual pregnancy.

The bell rang for my birth and marriage;

it's time now for the third bell.

I have to learn how to die,

to die with dignity; not sign off 

a snarky, snivelling wretch.

I am practicing stoicism.

I am loving more deeply

the things that matter: visits from friends,

music, light on the walnut tree.

It's been several years since I have seen

the night sky; so I will be taken out 

to drink my fill of moon and stars.

“Virgin namesake, moon-Queen at night fall.”

Or, the Duchess of Malfi's magic words:

“Look you, the star shines still.”

My mind wavers and I wonder at times 

whether I can retain my stubbornness.

But then I remember the hardship

of each days waking,

remember I can no longer consent

to the pain and endurance,

nor transform them into any

meaningful pattern.

I am asked whether I will find it hard

to say goodbye.  But, consider

how many times I have already said it:

feeding, cleaning, dressing myself

turning over in bed

walking, singing, playing the piano,

cooking, stitching my tapestry,

hugging my friends from their or my need.

The list could go on forever.

I have lived, so far, nearly three 

of the forty weeks yet to come.

There will be only one ending,

an ending I must learn to trust.